Are You Who You Want to Be?

east coast shore with sun setting

This post is part of the Five Minute Friday link-up, where the word of the week is who.


I’ve always liked a song by one of my favorite alternative Christian music bands. Some of the lyrics are, “This is your life. Are you who you want to be?” 

Sometimes it’s a challenge to love life, with all of it’s ups and downs, the good and the difficult.

And it’s easy to feel like we don’t measure up.



Every time I hear the words of this song, I wonder if I’m living the life I was meant to, even though it looks different in many ways to what I had planned.

Isn’t that how life is?

We dream and plan and make choices.

Then life comes along and things don’t always go the way we want or imagined.

Some of these discrepancies are due to our own actions, yet many are uninvited, whether happy or ill.

But I wish to be a person who embraces the life I’ve been given.

We’ve all heard it said that we can’t change our circumstances, but we can choose our reaction to them. It really is true of much of life’s events.


There are some choices that can help me to become the person I want to be.

First, I wish to be content.

Even though my personality often tends towards seeing the glass half empty, I purpose to be grateful and enjoy what I’ve been given. Even if it isn’t what I expected, I have been given much.

That’s why I keep a gratitude journal.

Nothing changes our perspective more than a thankful heart.

Secondly, I desire to live with intention.

I’m good at this in some areas, and sorely lacking in others.

But I want to be sure I’m not wasting the precious time and gifts I’ve been given.

I will continue to endeavor to live the life I was created for, and follow his design for me, wherever that may lead.

It won’t always be easy, but my God has never left me on my own.


There is a beautiful balance between accepting and enjoying our lives as they are, with grace, and using our strength, wisdom and love to make a difference to ourselves and to others.


I need not settle with where I am at, yet I need not pine away for the past or a future that may not be mine.

So in the end, I am who I want to be, and I ask God to help me to further fulfill the destiny he has planned for me.

One intentional baby step and thought of gratitude at a time.

So what about you? Are you who you want to be?





4 replies
  1. Myrna J. Folkert
    Myrna J. Folkert says:

    Hi there! I too, love to find songs or the song inspires me to write something related to it. I’m your neighbor in FMF #58. Love your thoughts here. An intentional and grateful heart means the world. I see you too, probably love sunsets!

  2. Paola @ Swallow the World
    Paola @ Swallow the World says:

    I’m often confronted with the discrepancy between who I want to be and who I am. I want to radiate peace, but I get angry so easily. I want to help people with eating disorders, but I still have slips with my own recovery. I want to be a good mother in the future, but many times I’m not a good daughter. I want to be humble, but I find again and again how pride is my biggest sin. However, I think at least now I realize those things and work on changing them and pray for it, instead of thinking, “well that’s just the way I am” and doing nothing!

    • Ann Guinn
      Ann Guinn says:

      Yes. There’s definitely a balance between accepting who we are right now and striving for excellence. I agree with you that prayer is key to helping us live in balance.


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