tubing at Darien Lake with family

The Serious Value of Play

Today’s short post is written for the link-up at Five Minute Friday, and the prompt of the day is “play“.

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tubing at Darien Lake with family

Lazy River ride at Darien Lakes amusement park. (Yes, that’s me on the right.) 🙂

 

Children love to play.

So why is it that as adults, we find it so difficult to stop, let loose, and relax or have some fun?

I know we’re busy, especially if you have a spouse and/or a family. Our culture seems to thrive (or thinks it does) on being busy.

Perhaps you’ve learned along with me that we have to make time for the things that are really important to us. It will not just happen.

And I’ll bet that most of us as adults don’t appreciate the serious value of play.

Playing or enjoying leisure time and activities does much to relieve stress, helps our bodies (and minds, and emotions, etc.) to heal, allows us time to create and imagine, and rejuvenates us. It helps us to simply enjoy life.

Play and rest from work give us needed strength and renewed motivation to tackle our responsibilities, pressures, difficulties and joys with new vigor, both physically and mentally.

My personality tends to easily get caught up in getting things done, but when I don’t take time to stop and rest and enjoy my life, an important inner need is not met.

We just returned from a wonderful family vacation.

The weather was far from perfect, but we played indoors while it rained, enjoyed simply being together, and made a point of taking advantage of every sunny moment. We even went out to play under the clouds almost every time the rain stopped.

I was talking to my husband on the way home about how we need to work on taking time each day (even if it can only be a little), and more often each week or month to do fun things both individually and as a family.

My online Pilates group has a monthly health mission, and for July our assignment is to find time to play.

I know I need to purposefully create precious pockets of time (both big and little) to do things that refresh me and bring life to my body, mind and soul.

So forgive me if I sound like a kindergarten child, but I need to ask you a question.

Do you want to come out and play?

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One of my favorite family photos from my childhood!

The Worth of a Father

 

One of my favorite family photos from my childhood!

Dad watching his upside-down daughters (I’m the older one), as we climbed a mountain trail on family vacation.

Today I’m joining the crowd at the Five Minute Friday link-up (a little later, obviously, since it’s Sunday already). The word prompt for this week is “worth“, and I’d like to dedicate my writing on this Father’s Day to my own father, and to include mention of some other important fathers in my life.

Special thanks to my sister for providing me digital copies of several old family slides mostly taken by my mother of us as children. They have brought me joy today and reminded me of many special childhood memories.

I may be pushing the five minute mark again just a bit (OK, a lot, but it’s important!), but will keep things mostly unedited in the spirit of the challenge.

Happy Father’s Day to you, Dad!

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What is the worth of a father?

It can’t be put onto words, but the value of a good father is reflected in his children and in how he affects the lives of those around him.

My Dad & I many years ago

Dad & baby Ann (many years ago!)

We can mostly agree that while a good father influences others for good, in the same way a father can negatively impact his children for the rest of their lives.  We’ve all seen examples of children who really struggle in areas of life or sometimes need inner healing as adults from the turmoil of a poor father-child relationship (whether “negative” or just nonexistent).

I’m thankful for my own good father, as well as some other special fathers in my life. Though imperfect, they have impacted those in their lives in a positive way.

My husband is a wonderful father to our now almost grown sons. He has led them through his life and changed them with his love. He manages to keep us all laughing and enjoying life in the process.

My husband’s late father loved his family and fought for them, both in family life and in the Second World War. His life ended after a valiant fight with cancer, but the honor of his memory and the love he shared will always bless his family as well as many others.

My sister’s husband showed up just at the right time, to “rescue” her after the death of her first young husband, and has brought much joy and love into her life, as well as being a superb father to their three sons. He is a gifted musician, and also “fathers” many other lives in his role as an associate pastor.

My husband’s sister also married a wonderful man, who has been not only father to their now-grown son, but has always been one to reach out and care for our family. He would do anything to help out using his talents in construction and house-building, and he has cared tirelessly for his wife for years.

Now I’d like to focus for a few minutes on my own father on this Father’s Day.

My Dad was a big part of many of the family memories growing up that were shared in the post I dedicated to my mom.

Dad played a lot with us when we were children, and we enjoyed his being silly with us through the years. Laughter and fun seem to follow wherever Dad goes. He spent much time outdoors with us, either teaching us about gardening or playing in our large, two-acre yard, or taking us camping as a family (often twice in a summer; one of the perks of being in the teaching profession).

Dad pumping water for my sister and I to drink

Enjoying a cool camp drink.

He was always teaching us, whether it was the facts of science, the wonders of nature, or the things of God. I often had my English corrected in our home, but even if I didn’t always appreciate it at the time, I now realize the benefit of knowing how to speak correctly.

Dad was a lover of animals, whether that meant teaching us how to care for and enjoy our pets (mainly cats), instilling in us an appreciation for the animals of nature, or on rare occasions, having to “help” an animal by making the difficult decision to let them go.

Once when I was caring for my best friend’s hamster while she was on vacation, my dad was a great support to me. I walked into a room to find that yes, one of our cats had somehow got into the cage and killed her hamster. Although they were both peacefully laying on the floor, I was devastated at what had happened to my friend’s pet, especially under my care. I’ll never forget how Dad came and gently picked up the hamster, stroking his fur as we prayed (just in case God saw fit to bring him back to life).

We often had the benefit of enjoying his class pet at home (usually a hamster, but including chickens and other animals), to care for it over school vacations.

My mother did most of the Christmas shopping, but as a young girl, I vividly remember some of the special gifts that Dad picked out especially for me. He would buy us just one more thing that was just from him, even though the shopping was supposed to be finished. One such gift was a special scented soap (Yardley, I believe), in a yellow case that he chose for me one year. We also made it a fun habit to work on a craft sort of project since we all had time off during the holidays, even though many times it sat unfinished when school started again.

Dad liked to take impromptu drives to look at nearby Niagara Falls and then eat at Joey’s Pizza, and we sometimes drove the almost two hours to watch airplanes take off and land at the Toronto airport. We also drove to many provinces and states during our summer camping trips.

climbing a dam wall with my dad

Dad, Rebecca, and I climbing a water dam. Kind of depicts our personalities…

I have some fond memories of helping Dad to decorate his school classroom and make copies on the ditto machine. We also grew up drawing on the clean side of the many extra school papers that Dad brought home for us to use.

He has apologized to me as an adult, for trying to make me “too perfect”, to which I generally joyfully respond, “Well, you succeeded!” I never felt my parents were too strict; but rather raised me lovingly with firm values that I have carried with me all of my life. I appreciate the many times Dad would humble himself to apologize when he felt that he had failed, a practice that I have learned to do with my own children.

In my adult life, my dad has continued to be a support to myself and our family.

When my mother had cancer, dad loved her and served her well, learning to do many of the household chores that she usually did as a stay-at-home mom. Later he was a tremendous support to my sister and her first young husband throughout his battle with Hodgkin’s disease. He also thoughtfully cared for both of my grandmothers as they aged, often driving them to their appointments. He has been, and remains a faithful friend to many.

We still have a lot of fun together, and my father continues to be a support to us all. He has managed to remain sensitive to our hurts and griefs, yet always maintains an attitude of unshakable faith and almost childlike trust, through all of our difficult times. I know he has prayed for us throughout these many years.

He has kept himself “young” over the years by participating in magnificent church plays and singing in choirs and worship teams (carrying on in his musical father’s footsteps), by remaining active physically (riding a motorcycle and more recently a scooter); he’s participated in missions trips and run several businesses from home since retirement, and still enjoys driving a small school bus (enjoying the fun of the school children without all the grading and disciplining of running a classroom).

He continues to grow and learn and become a better husband, even as a senior. He has taken steps to overcome fears such as height phobia (such as flying in a friend’s little airplane and driving on scary mountain roads with steep drop-offs), as well as shown me that we can learn to not let anxiety (about medical things and blood), rule our thinking and emotions. When I was a child, he completed his Masters degree at night school while being a full-time teacher during the day, and still managed to spend ample time with his family.

I’m sure I will think of more I would like to share, but suffice it to say that I’m proud to be my father’s daughter. I am thankful that God placed me in this family, and that now my own family has been sharing in the blessing of knowing my dad.

Thank-you for the worth and value you’ve added to our lives, Dad!

You have helped us to appreciate both the silly and the important things of life. We look forward to continuing to learn, grow and love together, as we add to the special family memories we share.

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sky photo with white tree blossoms and daytime moon

What I Learned this Spring 2017

sky photo with white tree blossoms and daytime moon

Welcome to another collection of What I Learned, an assortment of things I’ve noticed or learned that are serious, silly, interesting or emotional. It’s been a busy spring, and I’m grateful to have another opportunity to link up with Emily P. Freeman on her quarterly What I Learned page.

I’ve somehow managed to record quite a collection of miscellaneous points (20 in all!), but since my finger is still healing from a tendon injury and typing remains tedious, I’ll attempt to work against my natural inclination to detail, and be concise. Links will often be provided for you to peruse further information. I hope you enjoy this read, and learn a little or laugh a little with me.

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potted mint

 

1. Mint really likes growing in a pot on my windowsill.

I enjoy growing fresh herbs, and have tried to keep some on my windowsill throughout the colder months, as well as planted some in my outdoor garden in the warmer weather. Previously, I put the herbs on my sunny windowsill in their original little green plastic pots. They lasted for awhile, but eventually died, not surviving the winter.

Last summer I worked on a local farm and took advantage of that resource, probably outdoing myself with the number of herbs I purchased or received. I turned a small garden at the end of my driveway into an herb garden, and proceeded to re-pot others to try once more to help them survive the winter.

Well, I think I either chose more cooperative herbs and/or they just needed more growing room, as they mostly made it through the cold months in their roomy pots. In fact, my mint in particular (chocolate mint and spearmint) looks really happy and thriving.

indoor herbs in sunlight

 

And to top it all off, most of my herbs (the perennials) came up again in my garden early this spring!

 

herb garden in early spring

herbs outdoors in late spring

 

2. We tried a Galia melon for the first time and liked it.

While grocery shopping with a friend at Trader Joe’s this spring, I saw a melon that looked very similar to a cantaloupe, but is called a Galia melon. The inside was lighter in color, and the flavor mild. My thoughts were that the flavor seems to be somewhere between a cantaloupe and a honeydew.  According to this post, I guess I was very accurate! It was the first time we had ever tried or even heard of a Galia melon, but it was tasty!

 

3. I finally learned the meaning of the word “paroxysmal”.

I’ve had some dealings with that unpleasant condition known as “vertigo” over the past few years. The type I have been diagnosed with and treated for is known as BPPV, or benign paroxysmal positional vertigo. It’s basically a condition of dizziness caused by crystals in the inner ear becoming dislodged and moving into one of the semicircular canals, causing a feeling of dizziness when the head is moved.

Although I’ve known the name of the condition for some time now, I never understood the meaning of the word, “paroxysmal” in the title. A paroxysm is “a severe attack or a sudden increase in intensity of disease, usually recurring periodically”, which helps to explain the sudden and intense nature of this condition.

Thankfully there are treatments available to help ease or eliminate the symptoms, and most therapists or doctors will teach their patients to do these exercises at home. I’m sure thankful for these medical helps.

 

4. I’ve learned of a cheaper and therefore appealing online mattress company.

After experiencing confusing and less than satisfactory mattress shopping, Tuft & Needle was started by two men.  Their aim is to cut out the middlemen and unnecessary expenses, while still delivering a high quality product. It is delivered to your door in a compact box, and the mattress will expand once opened. They even give you 100 nights to test your new mattress!

Sounds like a product worth checking out!

 

5. The Baikal seal is the only true freshwater seal species.

One of the smallest types of types of seals and the only seal species that live exclusively in fresh water, the Baikal seal lives in the waters of Lake Baikal in Siberia, Russia.

 

6. I’m not sure the story about babies being raised without affection and dying is even true.

Haven’t you heard about a so-called experiment in which a group of babies had all their physical needs met but were not shown affection, and the result being that many of them died? Well, according to this writer, we’re not the only ones who have been told such an account. But apparently the tale is lacking solid sources. As I began to look into it, it appears that although there is evidence that humans need physical affection, there doesn’t seem to be an account of such an experiment.

How do these stories get started and passed around for so long?

 

7. There is a scientific reason why orange juice tastes bitter after brushing your teeth.

It is thought that it’s because of sodium laureth sulfate, which is used as a foaming agent in most toothpastes. Apparently sodium laureth sulfate suppresses or reduces the taste receptors that allow us to taste something as “sweet”.

It could be another reason to use a more “natural” toothpaste.

 

8. I’m learning a bit about how to care for succulents.

After purchasing two cute little succulents in pretty handmade clay pots from some local high school students, I realized that I know little about how to care for them. I found a blog, Succulents and Sunshine, that seems to be a great resource if you are interested in growing this type of plant.

plants from high school sale

 

9. The Giant’s Causeway is an amazing natural wonder.

It’s hard to believe that this amazing set of rock formations on the north east tip of Ireland was created as a result of volcanic action. It looks like a truly remarkable place!

image of the Giant's Causeway

 

10. I’ve been waiting far too long between coats of nail polish.

I’m no professional when it comes to painting nails, but I do like to keep my toenails colored during the warm months when they are exposed. I’ve always thought that it was necessary to wait a long time (like 20-30 minutes?), between coats of nail polish. Well, it seems I’ve been completely wasting my time! According to one nail expert, two minutes is all you need!

I also found this article useful for more nail polish mistakes and how to avoid them.

 

11. Sharp knives really are considered more safe to use than dull ones (but they’re still scary).

I really don’t want to dwell on this topic (I didn’t even want to look at a sharp knife for some time after it happened), but since I cut my tendon on my left index finger and had to have surgery recently, I had to do just a little research to see if sharp knives really are more dangerous. The incident happened when I slipped while cutting watermelon, and resulted in my having to return to the hospital for surgery to repair the severed tendon.

I had at least one person tell me that they learned that you should keep your knives a little on the dull side. I had always heard the opposite, and interestingly enough, the knife that hurt me had only been sharpened a couple of weeks before.

After watching this short video and reading this article, I still think having sharp knives is the better way to go. But needless to say, I will never again handle a knife without caution and respect, and encourage us all to learn and practice safe knife use techniques!

index finger in splint and bandage

 

12.  It’s amazing how many wonderful and useful things you actually can do with one hand…..and how many simple things you can’t!

As a result of my injury, surgery, and current recovery process of my index finger, I have been amazed and frustrated by how much I depend on the use of one little finger! It’s interesting to see what jobs I have adapted to quite easily, while so many tasks require more mobility and/or strength than I have yet regained and remain difficult.

Never would I have imagined the work and inconvenience caused by a simple mistake in the kitchen! I won’t take it lightly when someone mentions that they are in physical therapy (now that I know how much time, effort and discomfort are often involved!) And as I progress in my therapy, I am growing more appreciative of simply having a body that works normally.

injured finger

 

13. I now know the meaning of “fractionated” coconut oil (sort of).

I won’t even begin to try to explain the details on this one, but will refer you to the “experts”. This article does a great job explaining what fractionated coconut oil is along with it’s uses. Fractionated coconut oil is defined nicely in this post , which is also informative in comparing it with extra virgin coconut oil. Here it is in a nutshell, according to the same post:

“Basically, it is a form of the oil that has had the long-chain fatty acids removed via hydrolysis and steam distillation. Just this one change makes the oil liquid at room temperature, and extends the product’s shelf life.”

 

14. Chiffonade is a special technique used to thinly slice basil and other leafy green herbs and vegetables.

This method is used to slice basil (or other leafy greens) into pretty, thin, ribbon-like strips by stacking and rolling the leaves. You can read more details and view helpful photos here.

 

15. I have discovered that there are no federal laws governing food expiration dates.

This interesting article in the Los Angeles Times taught me that there no federal laws governing food expiration dates, many dates are not based on science, and that the resulting confusion leads to a lot of food waste (about 40 %!).

This is frustrating, to say the least!

 

16. Thankfully, cherries are really healthy!

I’ve always loved cherries. they are one of my favorite fruits! Over the years, I’ve been pleased to discover that these sweet, tasty treats have many health benefits as well. So when it comes to cherries, eat up!

 

17. Baby butter beans is another name for Lima beans.

A recent recipe I was making called for “baby butter beans“, which I had never heard of. It turns out that this is simply another name for Lima beans.

 

18. After 50 years, I’m still a bit of a “wimp” when it comes to injuries and medical procedures.

As mentioned in the above points (#11 & 12), I’ve learned a lot about myself through this experience with injuring my finger. I have always found  injuries and certain medical procedures frightening. I have had to learn to relax, believe the truth and trust the doctors and medical experts who have cared for me, but it hasn’t been easy.

I thought I had come so far (and I have), but like many weaknesses in our lives, I still have a way to go. It was disappointing to me to still feel so afraid and nervous at so many points in this process, yet I’m also encouraged as I see myself growing to trust God more and learning how to better deal with difficult circumstances. I guess we never really stop learning and growing.

 

19. I really liked sharing a different little part of my life with my (far-away) sister.

Recently, I participated in another free challenge offered by Robin Long of The Balanced Life. I have been enjoying doing her Pilates workouts for over a year now, so much so that I joined the Sisterhood (her online subscription service) and have found it to be a wonderful part of my fitness and health journey.

My dear sister and I live about 500 miles apart, and as a result, we don’t often get to participate together in many of the daily activities that we love. I invited her to join us for a free, simple healthy eating challenge, and it was so fun being able to connect online with my sister and do this challenge together. It was also special to “share” some of the community and resources that I hold dear and find so helpful and enjoyable in my life, as well as to have my many online friends (“sisters”) “meet” my own flesh and blood sibling.

I’m so glad we could do this together!

my new mug

 

20. It feels strange to have my youngest child graduate from high school (but good, too).

We just celebrated the high school graduation of my youngest child (my second son). I’m not even sure it has totally sunk in yet. It has been strange and wonderful and bittersweet all at once.

It doesn’t seem all that long ago when he was in his first week of kindergarten. I was waking him to get ready for school, and he said something like, “You mean I have to do this again???” I don’t remember exactly how I answered, but I was thinking, “Only about another 12 years!”

Well, here we are.

my son's graduation

 

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading some of the many things I’ve learned this spring. Life is full of wonder and changes and growth, and I’m happy to be able to remember some of these things and share them with you.

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What have you been learning?

 

 

 

Leaf piles in my side yard

11 Things I Learned in October & November 2016

 

Leaf piles in my side yard

I’m so happy and privileged to include this post with Emily Freeman’s What We Learned link-up. Since she is now posting this quarterly and I usually try to post each month, in order to get the full story please be sure to check out my 10 Things I Learned in September 2016 post as well.

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In 1 Samuel 7, Samuel set up a reminder for the people of God, so that they would not forget his help in triumphing over the Philistines (after they turned away from their heathen gods):

 Samuel then took a large stone and placed it between the towns of Mizpah and Jeshanah. He named it Ebenezer (which means “the stone of help”), for he said, “Up to this point the Lord has helped us!” – 1 Samuel 7:12 (NLT)

I’d like to think of each, “What I Learned” post as a kind of “Ebenezer stone”, a place where I can stop and think not only of what I’ve learned each month, but what God is teaching me in this part of my journey.
My hope is that as I share what I’ve learned, you too will be encouraged, challenged, or even caused to let go of the stresses of life for just a few minutes.
So here’s what I’ve learned these past two months (serious or silly, in no particular order):

10 Things I Learned in October  & November 2016:

 

1. It has been claimed that egg whites will “heal” or protect burns, but in reality, it’s not the best (or even a safe), method.

So maybe this one should be classified as “almost learned”, since shortly after I heard of this idea, I also found out through minimal research that it should probably be avoided.

According to Snopes,

If egg white is at all effective in treating burns (and we’re not at all convinced that it is, 100+ year medical references to the contrary), it’s as an occlusive dressing that would keep contamination out of a raw wound, not as a magical curative of burned flesh. Its effect on the healing process wouldn’t have anything to do with its collagen content or that it’s a “placenta full of vitamins,” but rather that it’s a thickish liquid that would form a barrier. (In other words, motor oil — which has no collagen to it at all — would work equally as well.)

As to what to do with all this confusion, even when the burn is minor and the injury is fully cooled before anything else is done to it, there is a downside to coating such an injury with egg white. Raw eggs sometimes contain or have resident on their shells salmonella, a deadly bacteria. Introducing salmonella into an open wound would be a dangerous idea. Says a physician friend of ours, “Burn-injured, denuded skin is an excellent culture medium, and a contaminated egg white applied to his burn could readily cause severe damage or death to the patient.”

So before you get all excited to learn of another miraculous use for that extra dozen eggs you bought on sale, think twice! It would be wise to avoid the possibility of introducing a possibly even more serious issue into the burn in the form of salmonella.

2. My begonia plant is so much happier in a bigger pot!

begonia plant in small flower pot

Here’s the first pretty little pot to which I transferred my begonia (this photo is April 2014).

After perusing the web for information and pictures, I am fairly certain that my plant is a (somewhat) common wax begonia (or Semperflorens Begonia). I received this cute little flowering plant several years ago when a good friend of mine got married. She was the leader of our church women’s small group, and we wanted to have a special, more intimate wedding shower for our dear friend. Someone had the idea to give out these pretty plants for shower favors. We gave them to guests in a tiny little pot of some sort. Later, I re-potted mine into a bigger, but still small beautiful little flower pot where it lived and did surprisingly well for several years.

Fast forward to the end of this past summer, when I decided to give my poor, growing plant a little more “leg” (root) room. It seemed “happy” enough where it was, even flowering on occasion, but I could tell that it was really starting to outgrow it’s space. I found a larger pot in my basement, re-potted my begonia, and after a brief adjustment period, it started growing like a weed!

 

My bigger begonia plant

November 3, 2016.

My begonia - October

This is my happily growing begonia in a more roomy pot (October 31, 2016).

begonia

My happy, happy, thriving begonia!

 

 

As happy as I thought my plant was before, now I have a growing and really thriving plant! It is probably at least three times bigger and seems to never stop flowering now……it’s way of thanking me, I guess.

3. “Asking the right questions is an art form and it has a name: Social Jiu-Jitsu”.

In a world where online communication and social media is so prevalent, networking and building personal relationships face to face seems even more important. Whether we are just trying to connect personally with people we know and care for, foster good working relationships at a job, or build a brand or online business, making people feel you care and that they can trust you is critical.

I recently read this interesting and informative article online, which discusses this topic and describes the art of “social Jiu-Jitsu”, which is essentially asking someone the “right” questions to get them to open up. The author describes this as “getting people to like you”, and in reality it’s a really useful tool to learn to use if you wish to grow socially.

You probably can immediately think of someone you know who seems to naturally possess this gift. My mother and younger sister are two that come to mind right away. They both seem to be gifted naturally to ask others about themselves, whereas I and my oldest son have to purpose ourselves to interact with others in this less self-centered way.

It really seems to come down to just putting the other person first, which is something many of us (especially as Christians), aspire to do. Whatever our God-given personality, we can all learn and grow in this art.

4. Quinoa really is one of the most healthy and nutritious foods you can eat.

Have you been introduced to quinoa yet? (By the way, it’s pronounced, “keen-wa”, as recorded here, not “quin-oh-ah”, as I was apt to say at first.)

I tried this ancient grain for the first time several months ago, when I came across several recipes which included quinoa. It took a short time to get used to it, but now I enjoy it and even have a few quinoa recipes that I really like.

I had been told it is really healthy, but I really didn’t know why. In an educational article describing “11 Proven Health Benefits of Quinoa“, the author does a great job in explaining the many and very convincing traits of quinoa that make it uncommonly nutritious. It really is an extremely healthy food, and suggest you try it and join me in incorporating some into your diet.

5. Regretfully, there is a “sex mod” for Minecraft.

I came across this upsetting fact while reading a post one day online. The author is a parent and wanted to inform other parents of this news, so that they we can protect our children. She asked us to check it ourselves, and sure enough, it is true.

It’s really frustrating that even a good game like Minecraft has to have a negative counterpart.  It is disappointing that nothing is “sacred” anymore, not even an innocent children’s game.

However, after I expressed frustration about this to my husband (thinking it would ruin the game for kids everywhere), he assured me that a “mod” has to be purposely downloaded.

In other words, while it may be a temptation to older/more knowledgeable kids (who hopefully should know better or could be getting into far more trouble online already), it will not just pop up accidentally.

It doesn’t make me any happier about it, but at least many can still enjoy the game without incident. It also serves as another sobering reminder of the evil in the world we live in, and challenges parents and adults to be vigilant in teaching and protecting their young children.

6. Getting a good night’s sleep is so important (yet I’ve struggled with it for years).

I’ve been a night owl most of my life. Sometimes it’s fun and even productive, but overall it doesn’t serve me well. As most of my middle-aged friends can attest, good sleep doesn’t always come as easily as it did when we were younger. I’m thankful to not have insomnia or another more serious sleep issue, but I also find it frustrating and difficult that too often I struggle to get a decent night’s sleep.

Recently, I came across a free course online about how to sleep better. My almost immediate reaction was, “sign me up!” (You can sign up for it here too, if you like.)

The videos and lessons are short but packed with valuable information. What I didn’t know initially but found very interesting is how valuable naps can be. I’ve never been a good napper, but may need to try to utilize this form of rest more often.

My husband and father, on the other hand, have been experts at napping for years.

7. I can push myself (physically) harder than I thought, but it takes a lot out of me.

I’ve been exercising regularly now for quite a few years. I generally don’t go crazy, but am consistent and try to do moderate exercise several times a week. I also enjoy just moving, being outdoors and walking.

For the past several months, I’ve found great value and enjoyment in taking part in an online program for a Pilates exercise plan. We have a wonderful, sweet and knowledgeable instructor, and this program has helped me to become stronger and more disciplined, yet maintain a balanced lifestyle. (This is the website, if it sounds like something you’d like to check out.)

I decided to take a week-long “plunge”, and signed up for a more intense program which included recipes for a meal plan and longer Pilates workouts to be repeated for seven days in a row.

Well, I did it! It was difficult at times, but I’m proud to say that this 50-year old made it through!

I learned a lot about healthy and more balanced eating and a good deal about myself. Although I lost a few pounds and am definitely stronger, it did seem to take a lot out of me. It took me a few days to feel “recovered” and rested again.

It’s good to know that I can still push my body, but it needs to be balanced with rest and time to recuperate.

8. Poldark is my new favorite TV show.

My husband and I found another British television show we really enjoy watching together!

It’s really difficult to find good TV shows, (especially after my becoming a Downton Abbey fan). We watched the first season of Poldark by temporarily subscribing to the PBS website, then caught up and enjoyed the current season on television.

I hope the show continues to be mostly wholesome and enjoyable.

9. I finally learned the difference between white and yellow cake (and how to make your own mix).

Before now, I’m not sure I even knew there was a real difference between white and yellow cake (other than coloring).

One of my favorite blogs posted a wonderful new pumpkin dessert called “Pumpkin Dump Cake“, and I knew I had to try it. (It’s already become a favorite fall recipe in our household!) The recipe calls for a boxed yellow cake mix and I only had a white cake mix on hand. I decided to do a little research to see if my white cake mix would stand in for yellow in this recipe.

It seems that white cake is made with egg whites (no yolks), and sometimes a combination of butter and shortening (to keep it’s white, name-sake color). Yellow cake contains the whole egg and usually all butter, according to this post.

I also learned to make my own cake mix which will undoubtedly save money, be a healthier option, and save a trip to the store on occasions in which I find myself without a boxed cake mix on hand. (You can get that recipe here.) It’s too easy, and I actually know what the ingredients are that we are consuming. That’s a win!

10. I really like working at the library!

I am excited to share that I started a new part-time job! I’ve been in transition for the past couple of years or so, when my full-time job as an aide ended (after ten years). I’ve enjoyed several different jobs in the meantime that each ended after a few months, but all along I’ve thought that a library assistant position would be enjoyable and really suit me as my next job. I submitted many applications over the months, but never even got as far as an interview until now.

I’ve only worked about two weeks, and I can already tell that this is a near-perfect fit for me! While I still feel my most important “career” is housewife & mother (with a side of blogging), it feels good to again be doing a job that I think I’ll really enjoy!

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11. Seeing TSO live is an absolutely phenomenal experience!

I apologize right now for those of you, like me, who will be slightly (or more) bothered by my not ending on # 10, but I had to add this one!

We were blessed and surprised this month by my husband purchasing tickets for a Trans-Siberian Orchestra concert! We’ve waited for years for this experience, and I tell you, it was well worth the wait!

Talk about a production!

Lights, loud rock rhythms and guitar licks, leather and long hair (often swaying to the beat of the music), laser-light effects, real fire (whose heat you could actually feel!), realistic video and beautiful background media, incredible choreography, quiet and classical elements, all combine to deliver an incredible concert. The artful fusion of rock, classical and theater provides a holiday show like no other!

One of my favorite things about TSO, is that they do not hold back on singing about the true story of the real meaning of Christmas. Traditional Christmas carols are brought to higher heights (in my opinion), and the musicians keep moving and entertaining throughout the entire show.

If you appreciate theater, dance, different styles of music (including some rather loud rock), and a unique and unforgettable Christmas concert, I hope you get a chance to see the Trans-Siberian Orchestra someday. I’m so thankful for this fun family experience together.

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Do I have your attention yet???

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(If you find this at all appealing, check back a little later, when I will attempt to post a video to enhance your listening and viewing pleasure.)

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It’s been a busy, interesting, and productive couple of months. I wonder what December will bring?

 

 

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You’ve Got Mail

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Do you remember that memorable movie line from the 1998 film?

That’s the first thing that came to mind when I heard today’s prompt, “mail”. We don’t watch a lot of movies, and certainly don’t endorse the material and values that many of them stand for, but there is something that stuck out to me about this particular movie.

I had to look it up to refresh my memory, but You’ve Got Mail is a movie about a man and a women who get to know each other online, but little do they realize they are actually business rivals. In the end of course they fall in love and it’s “happily ever after”.

The thing that stood out to me from the movie was when either person (on their now “out-of-date” personal computers), received a notification, “You’ve got mail.” It happened over and over throughout the movie as their relationship developed.

Well, guess what?

You’ve got mail.

I have it too. In fact, it’s written to the whole human race.

It’s a long, detailed love letter; one of the oldest, but greatest stories ever recorded. It’s recorded by many different authors, but written by the one, true God.

And the best thing is, the Bible stories are true.

Why not take a fresh look at your “mail”, and see what the One who created you has to say to you today?

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Today’s quick post was written for the Five Minute Friday link-up. Join me there to see what other bloggers have to say about the prompt, “mail”.

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10 Things I Learned in September 2016

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Another month and another ten lessons. I continue to be amazed at how near the end of each month I consistently feel that I will not have enough items to write about, yet by the time I’m done, I usually end up with a sufficient list. If I’m on top of things, I keep a running list of what I’m learning (the best way to remember all those little things we learn without thinking). But even if I create my list in somewhat of a last-minute fashion, it never ceases to amaze me how much new knowledge I’ve acquired each month!. It really is true that we should never stop learning!

 

10 Things I Learned in September 2016:

 

1. We are actually more productive when we take breaks.afternoon nap on couch

I’ve probably known this to some extent for a long time, but I never realized that it has been backed up scientifically. I will say that the longer I live, the more I know this to be true in my own life. While reading online this month , I came across a link to this informative article, which explains scientific reasons to prioritize breaks as well as other helpful tips on recharging to be more productive.

2. Chlorine is really bad for jewelry (the second worse element?).

I recently heard this while dropping off some jewelry for repairs at our local jewelers. You can read more details in this article (by a different jeweler online). Chlorine or bleach cause a chemical reaction that breaks down the alloys in jewelry. So before you stick your precious hands in a bleach cleaner or jump into that pool, please remove your rings!

3. I really, really dislike throwing out food and deciding if food is still safe to eat is one of my most “un-favorite”decisions.

Recently I had some ground turkey thawing in the refrigerator; two pounds to be exact. As life sometimes goes, I got busy and didn’t cook it quite as soon as I had planned. One evening I warmed up my big frying pan, got out the turkey, and threw a pound in to cook. It was already late and I was tired, but I figured at least if I cooked the meat, it would be safe to wait another day until I could make the recipe I was planning.

But when I opened the second pound to add to my hot pan, it didn’t smell right to me. Knowing that it had been out maybe a day or so longer than recommended, I immediately became worried that it may have been starting to go bad. I was so upset and confused! I hate wasting food; perhaps because we try to stick to a tight food budget, and also because of the way I was raised by my family. My grandparents lived through the days of the depression, and their generation especially learned not to waste anything.

I often work hard to scrimp and save and try to make do with what I have, so throwing a whole two pounds of meat did not make me a happy camper. Even if my money allowed, I would still have a problem with wasting food, as I aim to be a good steward of all God has blessed me with.

So this was really emotionally difficult for me, magnified, I’m sure, by the lateness of the hour and my tiredness. I finally just made the decision to throw out the whole two pounds, just in case it was unsafe to eat. I wrapped it all up in plastic shopping bags and immediately stomped it out to my trash. I was really upset.

I had to realize that the risk of food poisoning or sick stomachs is not worth a couple of pounds of ground turkey meat, yet I was surprised at how upsetting it was to me. It took me a surprisingly long time to get over the incident. This is just another example of something that needs to be in balance, and for which I need to allow myself some grace.

The time I burnt my chicken dogs to a crisp, however, it was obvious even to me that they were trash!

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My chicken dogs, literally burnt to a crisp!

4. When I go downstairs to get something, I almost always forget what it was.

Does this happen to you? (If you’re anywhere near middle age or older, I can bet that it has.) Since we’ve been middle aged, it seems that my husband and I, more often than not, completely forget the item(s) we’ve gone for as soon as we make it down the stairs to our basement.

Did you know that this is “a thing”? It really made me feel better when a few months ago an older friend at church told me that there was a logical explanation for forgetting things when we cross a threshold (or go downstairs, I guess). It’s referred to as the “doorway effect” or the “boundary effect“, and these articles provide a thorough explanation that will probably make you feel a little less crazy, as it did for me.

Now what was I saying?

5. I can do a two and a half minute plank (and probably many more things I thought were impossible).

At the beginning of September, someone in my online Pilates subscription group posted a challenge to do a plank every night in September before bed. On week one we were to start with one minute, and add thirty seconds each week, ending the month with a week of two-and-a-half minute planks! Well, I agreed and started doing one-minute planks. It was great, and by week two, I felt good, but also quickly realized that the two-and-a-half minute goal was going to be TOUGH! I kept going, though, and must have gotten physically stronger and more determined as I went along. By the last week, it wascat on exercise mat difficult, but I was able to manage a two-and-a-half minute plank for five total days!

So what’s my point? That I’m a super-athlete? Not even close!

My point is that often we can do much more than we think is possible! This is true both physically and emotionally/mentally/spiritually. Sometimes it will be hard; it may even feel (or appear) impossible, but more often than not it can be done. If we are determined, accept the help we need (from others & God), and do the hard work, we can do much more than we give ourselves credit for!

So go out and take a baby step and watch how much you grow.

6. Most commercially canned pumpkin is not made from the traditional carving-type pumpkins we are used to seeing, but is still real pumpkin.

According to this Snopes article, which gives a lot of interesting information about squash and pumpkins, most canned pumpkin is made from “a specific cultivar of pumpkin called Dickinson.” It is not as “pretty” as the pumpkins we associate with all things fall, but is still a variety of pumpkin and was specially cultivated for the purpose of canning pumpkin.

Furthermore, squash and pumpkins are not only in the same family, but can be used in most recipes interchangeably. In my summer/fall of working on a local farm this year, I’ve learned that certain people actually request Hubbard squash to make their “pumpkin” recipes.

What I really find interesting (and slightly disturbing) is how upsetting this has been to some folk. One person (quoted in the same Snopes article), who believed that canned pumpkin is really a mixture of squashes stated that it made him question everything in his life. Really?

I understand and agree with the fact that we, as intelligent, free consumers should know what we are actually purchasing, but if we’re losing sleep over which variety of squash or pumpkin resides in our store-bought can, I suggest we take up gardening, grow our own pumpkins and squash, and never have a worry again.

CSA farm share vegetables and fruit

7. Stored potatoes actually need a certain amount of humidity (and I thought they needed a dry climate)!

I just learned today that if your potatoes tend to begin to shrivel as mine often do when we keep them for awhile, it’s not because it’s too humid, but too dry! I guess I should have come to this conclusion myself, since shriveling is generally due to losing water, but somehow I missed that.

Our basement tends to be a little humid, especially in the summer months, so we generally run a dehumidifier. My friend who happens to be my boss this summer on the farm (also where we get our CSA farm share), told me that the dehumidifier is actually the problem when it comes to making my potatoes last! Hopefully this information will help us to store our potatoes better and not waste as much.

Here’s an article which includes some great potato-storing information, especially for winter-time. (Make sure you follow the link included for other innovative potato storing tips, even if you, like me, don’t have a root cellar or ideal storage area.)

8. The area which makes up the top part of our chest (right beneath our neck), is called the decolletage.

Well, that’s roughly how my friend described it. This came up in a conversation amongst a group of my woman friends the other night.

Accordingto Wikipedia, the decolletage is,

“the upper part of a woman’s torso, comprising her neck, shoulders, back and chest, that is exposed by the neckline of her clothing. However, the term is most commonly applied to a neckline that reveals or emphasizes cleavage.”

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Interesting. And this:

“Décolletage is a French word which is derived from décolleter, meaning to reveal the neck.”

Since it’s getting colder these past few first fall days, I think I’ll be keeping my decolletage under cover. I’m so relieved that I now know the correct name of the body part hidden beneath my infinity scarves.

9. We really do not care for turban squash after all.

As much as we generally like squash, and try to be open to trying and appreciating different types of foods, we as a family decided that we really don’t care for turban squash.  I’ve probably tried one each fall, as I like the variety and trying new foods, but I honestly don’t recall our previous experiences. All I can tell you is that I’m just not sure it’s worth the time and effort to try to find a way to prepare turban squash in a way that we enjoy.

It’s such a pretty, colorful squash, and there are many recipes that call for somewhat elaborately stuffing this interesting gourd. But since I’m still not convinced we will like it, I may just pass on that and call it a day. I learned growing up (and have continued to feel strongly about), not wasting food and learning to eat and appreciate as many healthy foods as possible, but I think in this case, I have to give myself permission to dislike or refrain from eating turban squash.

If you happen to have a favorite recipe for turban squash that you’re just dying to share, please let me know so I can give it one last-ditch effort…..or better yet, invite me over to your house and prepare it for me!

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10. “Among” and “amongst” mean the same thing and are both acceptable, but they may be viewed differently by others.

In writing this post, I had to add one more item (causing my “type A” personality to feel so much more comfortable with this nice, even number).

I’ve noticed that when I type the word, “amongst” on my computer, it underlines it as an incorrect word. So today I decided to look it up.

It seems that both words are valid and mean essentially the same, but according to this OxfordWords Blogs post, one may be more common depending on where you are speaking, and it’s even possible (at least in the US), that the word you chose may affect how you come across to your listeners. The post states that:

“in US English, amongst is now seen as old-fashioned, and even ‘pretentious’. If you are a US English speaker, therefore, and you don’t want to come across to your audience as out of date or, heaven forbid, linguistically la-di-da, then it’s advisable to opt for among.”

Well, that clears things up, and while I do not wish to appear haughty in any way, I just added the word, “amongst” to my computer dictionary. Now I will not have to be amongst those who are questioning whether it’s a word anymore.

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What have you learned this month? Do you have anything to share about vegetables, necklines, forgetting and/or taking breaks? I’d love to hear about it in the comments.

 

 

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What I Learned in August 2016

I was hoping to publish this before I go to bed tonight. See, I didn’t realize what the date was until I got to church today, and where I was reminded that it’s 9/11. The thing is, at first I thought, “How can I publish a blog post today that’s not specifically honoring that first, fateful 9/11 day?” I will probably write a more specific, serious post on that theme in the future (when I’m not caught totally off guard), but today is not the day.

As I thought about it, I decided that this “looking back” post about what I learned last month is actually somewhat appropriate, even for a serious day such as this. I’m beginning to really like these posts, as it’s a lesson in stopping and considering what new things I learned in the previous month. I usually start out thinking there won’t be enough interesting things to fill a blog post, but then surprise myself by ending up with plenty. I enjoy this habit, as it causes me to reflect on my days.

So even though some of my points are less than serious, I’m thankful today for all the moments of my life, especially in light of all the sacrifice and loss that so many experienced on that unforgettable September 11th. In gratefulness to all those who came together in unity, kindness and strength on that day, I wish to stop and reflect on my own life; the troublesome and the mundane, the pleasant and the remarkable.

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What I Learned In August 2016:

 

1.”Unthaw” is actually a word, and means the same as “thaw”.

Recently I came across the use of the word, “unthaw” in a recipe, and proceeded to think that the author obviously did not have a clear understanding that the proper term should be, “thaw”. Logically, it makes sense, if “thaw” means for something to go from freezing to room temperature, then wouldn’t “unthaw” mean the opposite? And is it even a word? (My spell-checker doesn’t seem to think so.) I’ve seen others comment on this as well, so it’s not just me. But wishing to know the truth, I took a few minutes, and discovered to my surprise, that EITHER is acceptable, and they mean the same thing! Here is a dictionary explanation. So now we can stop judging others for their use of either term, and we can all be friends.

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2. I really seem to “need” time in nature.

I’ve always known this, but I’ve really felt it recently, especially for the last half of this summer. Maybe it’s because we took an earlier vacation this year, or possibly because it was shorter and we jumped into “real life” again before I was fully rested. Either way, I have felt such a strong desire which can only be described as a “longing” to get away, or at least go out and spend some quality time in nature. Whenever I do so much as take a hike in the woods, or spend time near water, or even enjoy a simple campfire, I physically and emotionally give a sigh and feel relaxed. For the ultimate satisfaction for my desire or “need” to be outdoors, my preference is to spend a week or so in a cabin by a lake. (We have one favorite, in particular, but several that have been great.) I feel so refreshed when I have ample time for just “soaking it in”. The longer I wait between such lovely vacation visits, the more it seems I need my nature “tank” filled. I guess I just really enjoy and am thankful for God’s wonderful creation.

 

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3. Raising young-adult children is more challenging than I thought.

Yes, I have two older sons, one 17 and one 19, and yes, it is physically much, much easier than when they were little. We really enjoy having older children, but have definitely noticed two things. One, our conflicts are much more complicated than when they are little, and two, it’s really hard to allow them to grow up and accept their own consequences in order to grow to maturity and not live “enabled” lives. It’s often hard to know when to require obedience because they live under our roof, and when to let them make their own decisions (as adult or almost-adult individuals), and let them fail or fall. Often, I think the answer lies somewhere in the middle, but I now know that it all requires my trust in God and a great deal of wisdom and prayer!

 

4. When cutting ANY hot peppers, use gloves!

Why oh why, did I NOT remember this lesson from approximately this same time last year???!!! I got some little jalapeno peppers from the farm stand, and although we’re not avid “hot pepper eaters”, we occasionally enjoy recipes with a little “kick”. Knowing that jalapenos were not considered that hot (I have enjoyed them in restaurant recipes often), I proceeded to cut them up to freeze for later use……with my bare hands. After a few minutes, I started to feel the burn, and wondered if I should have worn gloves. As the minutes ticked by, I realized too late that it was starting to really hurt, but at that point there seemed to be no point of turning back. So I suffered needlessly (and stupidly, I must say!), even though I had already learned this lesson in the past. I guess that is a lesson in itself: Remember (or record?) the lessons you have learned, and don’t repeat the same dumb process that got you there!

 

5. When microwave reheating in containers with a plastic lid, if you don’t allow steam to escape, the lid will be ruined.

This is another simple lesson I should have known from past experience. If you don’t allow for built-up heat and steam to escape, the lid “sucks” down into the container and usually is bent beyond repair. (Sigh.) I did it again.

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6. We really are not “beach people”.

My family loves nature and the outdoors, and we even really like spending time by water. When we do go swimming, we really enjoy it a lot. But the reality is we don’t get to as much as we’d like, and when we have a choice, going to the beach is usually not our first “perfect summer day” of choice. Sometimes swimming doesn’t seem to make it to the top of our list. This summer we swam a grand total of one time (unless you count “creek-walking”, in which case we’ve gone twice).

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7. You can freeze tomatoes whole without blanching them.

I haven’t a lot of experience with freezing tomatoes. I’ve made some sauce and some homemade soup to freeze, but I don’t believe I’ve ever frozen plain tomatoes. This summer at my farm-stand job, a customer was looking for plum tomatoes to freeze. She said they are best for this purpose because they have less juice. I asked her about her method, and she said she just halves them and throws them in a freezer bag. Huh.

I went home and looked for more information online, and sure enough, this is a valid, and much easier method than the rather more time-consuming and complicated, “old-fashioned” process of blanching and peeling. Here‘s a nice blog post about this. (I actually just washed and halved mine, threw them a freezer bag in a single layer, and called it a day. A few of them stuck together a bit, but one little “clunk” on a counter and they’re good to go.)

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Frozen plum tomatoes “the lazy way” (no blanching or flash-freezing).

8. There is a better way to express the excess liquid from grated zucchini.

I like zucchini to cook and eat, but what I really like is to bake with it. This is definitely the preference of my non-zucchini-loving sons. I imagine you’ve enjoyed some nice, home-baked zucchini bread, but what you really ought to try is zucchini bread or muffins with chocolate! Adding chocolate chips to zucchini bread definitely takes it up a notch, and by adding cocoa, chocolate zucchini bread or cake is the ultimate in deliciousness!

This summer, I think I’ve discovered the best and easiest way to express the liquid from zucchini! You can read a more detailed description in this post. Happy zucchini-baking!!!

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I hope you found today’s reflections informative or at least mildly entertaining. What did you learn this August?

 

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15 Things I Learned in June & July 2016

It seems like such a long time since I wrote a “What I Learned” post. Well, it’s time for a look at the past two lovely summer months of June and July. Some points are serious, some are completely not serious, and some are just other “stuff”. Here goes!

 

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15 Things I Learned in June & July 2016:

 

1. Turning 50 was both harder and better than I thought.

I guess you could say I celebrated a “milestone” birthday this June, as I turned fifty years old. I’ve never been one to mind much about my age or getting older, but I must admit that this half century mark did hit me a little harder than I thought it would. I had a few moments (like on the evening before, when I realized that I had only hours left in my forties), that made me feel “old”. But overall, I decided to live it up and make the whole thing into an ongoing party. I announced my birthday age online (on Facebook), and invited my friends who are also turning fifty this year to join me in celebrating…..all year long! If you can make a big deal out of any birthday, I think this is the one! I think I’ve earned a little extra celebrating for living for one half century.

50 Years Well Lived

 

2. An hour or so on (or by) water will make up for several hours of stress.

When I originally wrote this point, I had just spent a couple hours with one of my girlfriends, part of which consisted of a lovely hour kayaking on a local “pond” (think “small lake”). I don’t remember how I was feeling at the time, except that afterwards, I was so de-stressed! The combination of some good exercise, the relaxing atmosphere, and time spent catching up with a friend were invaluable and very therapeutic! I’ve always known this about spending time near the water, but especially noticed on that day what a positive change it caused in my body, mind and soul.

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3. Bunnies are so cute!

OK, who doesn’t think bunnies are cute??? (Well, there are probably a few gardeners or farmers who are not particularly thrilled with their eating habits, but besides that…..) Each spring and summer, we seem to have a few rabbits who live in or at least near our yard. We really enjoy watching them. One evening while we were eating our supper, we saw one, then two…..then three bunnies hopping and chasing each other all over our neighbor’s yard. I’ve never seen anything quite like it. They seemed to be having an awfully fun time!

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4. I like almond milk better than “regular” (cow’s) milk.

A few months ago, I started regularly purchasing a small quantity of almond milk for myself. I think I had heard that it was easier to digest than regular cow’s milk, so I figured I’d give it a try. I quickly grew to like it. I also discovered that it has twice the calcium and less sugar than regular dairy milk (just read the labels), so it seemed like a good thing. One day when we had no almond milk, my son poured me a glass of 1% cow’s milk. I was surprised to have the realization that it tasted “different” now, and I no longer liked it as well as my almond milk, even though I grew up as a (cow’s)”milk drinker”. Luckily, my three men haven’t acquired the taste, so it remains affordable enough for me to keep on hand.

5. Some quality friendships are only for a season, but that’s OK (and it doesn’t make them any less special).

I’m not sure what made me think of this exactly, but it is a more positive way for me to think about relationships that seem to have grown “stale” or that are simply too distant in physical miles to maintain on a regular basis. I’m a faithful person by nature, and also feel very sentimental about any relationships I’ve had in my life, especially those with friends with whom I’ve been fairly close. I have come to realize that just because a close friendship seems to have “ended” or is just not practical for this stage in life, it doesn’t mean it wasn’t a “real” or meaningful relationship; it may just have been special for a time. I can live with this.

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6. I really like my Himalayan salt lamp.

Have you joined the craze of owning a Himalayan salt lamp yet? I tend to be somewhat cynical of ads about products like this having real health benefits, but after a little research, it seems there may just be something to it. I read an article on WebMD that gives some interesting information, after my online Pilates instructor wrote a post about her thoughts on Himalayan salt lamps, and I decided to give one a try. Since it was birthday time, I asked for it for a gift, which my sons graciously purchased for me. I’m not sure, but it seems like I’ve awakened feeling a little less groggy after using it in our bedroom at night, perhaps. I am still formulating an opinion as to whether or not it really works, but at the very least, it creates a nice ambiance in our room (and makes a great “night-light” if one of us comes up to bed and the lights are already off).

7. A thoughtful surprise gift means so much to me.

When it comes to love languages, gifts has always been one of mine. I love to both give and receive gifts, and I’ve known this about myself ever since I was a child. Shortly before my fiftieth birthday this June, a friend I met through an exercise program online asked me for my address, and wouldn’t you know, on the exact date of my birthday, I received a small package from her. She learned about my special birthday and wanted to bless me with a piece of handmade jewelry. She sent me a cross necklace, with the words “faith” and “believe” on either side of the pendant. I was so touched and blessed and had to share my precious gift on social media. This is a great reminder to go ahead and just do that thoughtful thing when it comes to mind, because you never know how it could make someone’s day. I know that this gift sure made my day special!

surprise birthday gift in mail

(If you’re interested in seeing my friend’s line of hand-made inspirational jewelry, here’s a link to her Etsy shop.)

8. Almond milk creamer should NOT be used as infant formula.

I couldn’t resist adding this one! For the record, I do NOT have an infant right now, and furthermore, even as a young mom, I would NOT have tried this. But on the back of my almond creamer container (of a well-known brand), I noticed this interesting disclaimer in red letters:

warning on almond milk creamer

“NOT TO BE USED AS INFANT FORMULA”

Well, duh!

I guess someone, somewhere must have thought it was a good idea at some point…..or else the company is just proactively avoiding a crazy lawsuit. So just in case you’ve ever wondered, don’t try this one at home, kids!

9. You can pack a lot of fun into a one-week vacation. 

This summer our family vacation was special, but a little shorter than usual. Due to the fact that our sons were both working, we shortened our time to just one week away (while my husband and I took some extra time off during the next week at home). We were happy that they were able to take the time off to come with us, as we know that our family vacations with them are limited as they grow older.

To some, this may sound like plenty of time, but due to the distance we usually travel to visit with family (a day’s drive to get to my parents’ home in Ontario), we end up losing the two days spent traveling to and from our destination. This time, we arrived at my parents’ house before they came home from a trip in order to have some “alone” time with just our sons (and to keep an eye on cats and plants). When my parents arrived home, we welcomed them and enjoyed a couple days with them. Next we crossed back over the border and spent the last couple days with my sister.

In that single week, we managed to cram in a lot of pretty good stuff.

We relaxed and read some, watched a movie, visited my Grandma, shopped for special Canada “treats”, ate out a lot, drank more than our fair share of Tim Horton’s coffee, picnicked at Dufferin Islands near Niagara Falls, visited Bird Kingdom in Niagara Falls (part museum; mostly tropical bird emporium), enjoyed a leisurely shopping day in quaint Niagara-On-the-Lake (including driving by the house where my dad’s parents lived), “caught up” with a dear friend,  shared a day out with my sister (out to a nice dinner for my fiftieth birthday, spending time near the lake, visiting and photographing my cousin’s church and eating wonderful homemade ice-cream), picked fresh blueberries, had a campfire, learned how to “creek walk” (see next post), made some cards, created some music, and enjoyed real buffalo wings at least twice. I can’t believe how much fun we packed into our vacation week!

Dufferin Islands sign

Dufferin Islands, Niagara Falls, Ontario

Entrance to Bird Kingdom, Niagara Falls, Ontario

Bird Kingdom

Niagara Falls barrel photo

homemade ice cream

Sisters together at Crystal Beach, Ontario

10. “Creek-walking” is a blast!

While visiting my sister and her family in the state of NY, we learned the skill of “creek-walking”. We piled into our two vehicles, made our way to an access point at a local creek, inflated several inner tubes, and began to take turns floating down the shallow river. It was fun, mildly exhilarating at times, and quite funny (the larger adults like me ended up getting stuck on the river bottom in shallow areas). Some of the older boys managed to get so far ahead down the river that we sent my husband and a helper out after them; not knowing they cut through and walked back, we nearly lost each other. But in the end it was just good, clean, country fun! We only lost one tube to the jagged rocks and sticks that were poking out, which was a fair trade off for a memorable adventure together.

floating down the creek in tubes

Learning to “creek-walk” with our family was a blast!

11. A good boss is better than a “first-choice” job.

This is a lesson I’ve been learning myself these past couple of years with my various job changes. My husband and I are also teaching this to our sons right now, who are training for one of their first summer jobs. Although there are parts of the job they do not care for, we have been discussing the fact that the good supervisors they seem to have outweigh any parts of the job that they currently “dislike”. Sometimes in work and even in life we have to accept the “bad” or “imperfect” along with the pleasant and the preferred. We are thankful to be working for bosses who seem to genuinely care for their employees and treat them well.

12. Amazon really looks like they’re “taking over the world”.

Here’s the photo “proof”:

three Amazon delivery trucks

It looks like Amazon is taking over the world! 😉

This was the view outside of our window one fine Sunday afternoon. We order a fair amount of product from Amazon, but not enough to justify three trucks showing up all at once in front of our house. Since there was nothing for us this time, we never did quite figure out what was going on that day. It sure gave us something to talk about.

13. It’s really important to check your sales receipt.

I can’t say that I always do it, but I try to check my sales receipt after shopping, especially for grocery orders in which I was supposed to receive a certain discount or cash back award. Recently, I have been shopping at our local supermarket a bit more, due to lack of time to travel to a further store, and because I seem to be getting some pretty decent deals (see next post, as well). I noticed that on several of the last few trips I did not receive the correct price or in one case, a sizable cash-back offer, but thankfully their customer service reps took care of it without question. It makes me happier to shop there knowing this, but I will still have to be sure to try to check each receipt. Mistakes can happen!

14. Getting a huge gas discount makes grocery shopping worthwhile.

One of the the benefits we’ve been taking advantage of recently, is the “gas points” earned for spending money at our local supermarket. They have a gas station next door, and depending on the amount you accumulate in purchases (along with some “special” awards for extra points), we have been able to save a decent amount on some fill-ups. The best one we earned so far was 90 cents off, and we just missed a whole $1.30 discount, because we didn’t realize when some of the points were expiring. I’m finding out that even if this is not always the cheapest store for grocery prices, the gas discount is a worthwhile additional savings!

15. Your poop reveals a lot about your health.

Sorry for the “TMI”, but recently I had seen this chart online, which I guess is frequently used in medical situations to determine the “quality” of one’s bowel movements. After the second time, the chart caught my attention, and somehow (please don’t even ask), I got to reading some interesting and informative posts about what our “poop” reveals about our overall health. It turns out this “everyday event” can be a real indicator of some health concerns. For some reason, it’s not something we ordinarily like to discuss, but it may be worth a read……especially if you are prone to reading in the bathroom. 😉

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Well, once again I have surprised myself with how many new things I’m learning. What have you been learning and discovering this summer?

fruit tart with candle

50 Things I’m Thankful For On My 50th Birthday

fruit tart with candle

My 50th birthday “cake”.

Well, this week marks an important date in history…..

Half a century ago, a wonderful little girl was born…..me!!! 😉

It’s never really bothered me too much to get older.

Thirty was absolutely no problem!

At forty, I still wasn’t bothered, but I did note that it felt weird to remember clearly when my mother turned the same age.

But FIFTY???

 

50 Years Well Lived

*****THE BIG 5 – 0 !!!*****

 

 

I’ve been thinking of how to celebrate this momentous occasion for awhile now.  My husband turned fifty this past January, so it’s already been on my mind for some time. These are some of the options I decided against:

  1. Crying and flipping out over being a half century old.
  2. Drowning my sorrows in fifty pounds of cake and ice-cream (although that one was tempting; and I will indulge in at least a little!)
  3. Attempting to blow out fifty birthday candles on my cake (before someone calls the fire department).
  4. Running away from home (to “find” myself).
  5. Doing fifty push-ups (although my Pilates workouts have helped me get closer to this one; OK, not close, but at least I can do a few now), or running fifty miles.

After all that contemplating, I decided that the best way to celebrate fifty years of life is ….. to CELEBRATE!

And what better way to celebrate than to think about the things for which I am thankful?

So for my 50th birthday, here are “a few” things I’m thankful for (some serious; some silly), in no particular order.

 

50 Things I’m Thankful For On my 50th Birthday:

  1. my good life
  2. health & wellness
  3. hot coffee in the morning (here’s my favourite; see point # 48)
  4. the warmth and light of summer
  5. a wonderful, faithful, loving, fun, handy husband
  6. my thoughtful and clever oldest son
  7. my sensitive and creative youngest son
  8. our cute and slightly mischievous cat, Chester
  9. our skittish but affectionate cat, Buster
  10. a very nice home
  11. my godly and creative mother
  12. my silly but wise father
  13. a sister who is a best friend (& her dear family)
  14. a grand-mother who is healthy for her age of 98, who is the remaining one of two great-grandmothers that my sons have had the privilege to know
  15. precious memories of years with my other grandmother (who passed away this past summer at the age of 93)
  16. two very different, yet equally special grandfathers (who have both left this life many years ago)
  17. ice-cream (a single food that solves so many of life’s problems!)
  18. growing up on two acres in the country
  19. a physically demanding, yet therapeutic summer job (on the farm)
  20. picking up our fresh farm shares from June to October (CSA)
  21. pleasant surprises in the mail
  22. cold-brewed iced coffee (the other temperature for my favorite drink)
  23. watching sci-fi movies, old television series, and Lord of the Rings with our sons
  24. having experienced the best homemade dill pickles and fruit pies (in the whole world; and I’m not biased!), made by my grandmother
  25. the grace of God (and mercies that are new every morning!)
  26. living beside grandparents for the first part of my life
  27. planting my new plants and herbs
  28. enjoying the hummingbirds who come to eat and visit our home in the warm weather
  29. a thriving, exciting, friendly, balanced, fun church
  30. the opportunity to minister on our worship team (at church)
  31. my online Pilates instructor (Robin Long of The Balanced Life), workouts, and community (the Sisterhood)
  32. Jesus’ incomparable gift of forgiveness and eternal life
  33. extended family who love and serve God and love each other
  34. Downton Abbey (first tv show I watched just for me)
  35. the opportunity to attend Bible college at Elim Bible Institute
  36. having a good relationship my aunts, uncles and cousins
  37. the Bible (my road-map for life) – here‘s a nice one 🙂
  38. my girlfriends (you know who you are!)
  39. doing something creative
  40. USA – a great country in which to live and have my family <3
  41. photography, photos, and scrapbooking
  42. sitting in the warm sun on my front porch watching nature (with a coffee)
  43. my long, quiet dead-end street
  44. nice neighbors
  45. connecting with friends and loved ones on Facebook
  46. relaxing with a good novel
  47. the changing of the seasons
  48. the opportunity to be born in Canada, but living in New England
  49. baking and eating it
  50. fruit tarts (better than cake!)

50th birthday (from Jon)

I hope you enjoyed my list and found it at least a little inspiring or entertaining.

Now I’m off for some leftover Chinese food and a nice piece of fruit tart. 🙂

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Our bunny in our yard by the rhododendrons

Seven Things I Learned in May 2016

Our bunny in our yard by the rhododendrons

“Our” bunny (who lives in my yard).

 

I’m both excited and feel privileged to share my second month of “What I Learned” with you, my readers, as well as to link up with Emily Freeman’s blog for this fun and informational occasion.

It’s a practice I’m learning how to make a habit, and hope that you find it beneficial as well.

So without further ado…..

 

Seven Things I Learned in May 2016:

 

1.  Although I enjoy getting to know new people and spending time with acquaintances, I need quality time with those I’m closest to, to fill my heart.

I have usually had at least one close friend in my life. When I was a child and then a teenager, I could do “anything”, as long as I had one of these special “best” friends by my side. As an adult, I have my husband as my best friend, but he can’t fulfill all of the “girlfriend” roles, so my close women friends have stepped up to the plate. (My husband and two sons thank you ladies, by the way!)

I find myself most comfortable with those I’m closest to, and find that I really need these close, more intimate “girlfriend” relationships in order to share some of my deepest thoughts and feelings.  It’s very fulfilling and encouraging to help each other in our pursuit of God’s will and obedience in our lives, and sometimes to just to kick back and have fun. I’m so thankful for these closer friendships in my life (“boss lady friends“, perhaps?), and pray that I’m as much of an encouragement to them as they are to me.

 

2.  Working in the heat is totally physically exhausting.

This summer, I am in one of my “transitional” jobs again. Since leaving my job of ten years as a teacher’s aide a couple of years ago, I feel like I’ve been “finding my way” in this next season of work. This summer, the opportunity arose for me to work at the farm (greenhouse work right now), where we purchase our farm shares. When I work in really warm settings (some greenhouses can get hot!), I am “toast” after about three hours. Even after I go home to clean up and cool down, I find I’m quite exhausted. I enjoy and appreciate the work, but am not cut out to be a full-time farmer!

Psalms 62.7

3.  I need to continue to learn to truly find my identity in Christ, not in what I do.

As I mentioned in point number two, lately I have been either unemployed or working in an entirely different part-time job to which I was accustomed. Both of these are situations in which I do not always feel comfortable. I believe it’s honorable to do hard physical labor, and know it’s a somewhat “normal” part of life to find yourself unemployed, but have found it difficult to feel proud of where I’m at right now. I turn fifty in a couple of weeks, and it feels like I should have my life all “figured out” (although I realize that’s not true). I finally realized that the main problem I’m having is associating my identity in what work I do (or don’t do, for pay that is, in the seasons of unemployment). In our culture where more women are expected to work outside of the home, I’m learning to find my identity not in what others think of me, but in Christ. Boy, this runs deep with me!

 

4. When you forget your chicken dogs on the grill for a couple of hours, they literally burn to a crisp.

I had the brilliant idea last week to “use up” some of the leftover heat from our charcoal grill to cook some chicken dogs for the next day. I assured my husband that he didn’t need to attend to them, but I would set a timer…..which I promptly forgot until a couple of hours later when I detected a distinct “burnt hot-dog” smell from outside.

 

2016-05-22 Chicken dogs burnt to a crisp (literally).

My chicken dogs, literally burnt to a crisp!

Interestingly, I now know where the expression, “burnt to a crisp” comes from, as they were not only thoroughly blackened, but also weighed next to nothing, as every last bit of moisture was cooked out of them!

 

5. I am a driving wimp.

I’ve never been comfortable driving places with which I’m not familiar, but am learning that I really do need to work on relying on my GPS and driving without fear. I can help drive across the country to visit my family in Canada, but will avoid driving in a city like the plague. A couple of years ago, before I owned a GPS, I got so hopelessly lost driving to meet some friends at one of their homes, that eventually someone had to drive out to meet me and “save” me. It really made me nervous, and I’m recognizing that I now have a greater fear which I need to overcome. God help me.

 

6. There is a new series by Downton Abbey creator, Julian Fellowes.

My dear husband informed me of this new series available on Amazon video, which is written by the same producer as my all-time favorite show, Downton Abbey. It’s called Dr. Thorne, and I enjoyed watching the first episode just last night. There are four episodes in this first season which are available to view. Here’s the link for those of you who have Amazon Prime. I hope that you enjoy it!

 

7. One of my new favorite plants is Scented Geranium, otherwise known as something with which most of us are very familiar.

All this working in greenhouses is educating me more in the world of plants. I just discovered a new “favorite” plant at my workplace. It’s official name is Scented Geranium, but most of you (especially candle-loving) friends will know it by it’s common name, Citronella. I am learning that many familiar candle scents come from plants (another being Bergamot). If you’ve never smelled the wonderful lemony scent of a Citronella plant, you are missing a pleasurable experience! And the best thing is, it really is a deterrent to those pesky mosquitoes!

(***Note of correction: Upon further research, it appears that “citronella” is a different plant altogether, and the “citronella scented geranium” is one of many varieties of scented geranium plants. I’m also disappointed to report that claims that this plant actually repels mosquitoes  have been proven to be false. However, I’m still thrilled to have it in my garden for it’s attractive foliage and flowers that will come. Here are three articles to read for further information about the myth about scented geranium, how to grow and care for “mosquito plants”, and other mosquito repelling plants that work. Perhaps I should save this information for next month, as I technically learned these facts on June 1st. 🙂 ***)

Scented Geranium (Citronella) 2016-05-31

Scented Geranium (Citronella)

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Well, another month come and gone.

I’m coming to realize that you really do “learn something new every day”, or at least every month!

Thanks for joining me. Don’t forget to check out the interesting lists of Emily Freeman and many other wonderful blogging friends on her link-up page! (If you’re a blogger, I guess I’m officially inviting you, too.) 🙂